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Monthly Archives: April 2019
Can’t Live and Let Die
- In response to this:
I am anti vax but I don’t stand on a corner with a sign nor shame those who vax. In my husband’s profession I have seen far too many who are suffering from side affects of vaccinations. Plus those who don’t vax are the ones in “trouble” not people who are current on their vaccinations.
We all are not a blanket society- we are all not one. If a doctor looked at an individual and actually assessed whether healthy for that child to get a certain vaccination then I’d be more willing to accept. There are many children who have autoimmune issues that are either unknown or haven’t been identified in which a vax could debilitate them.
Anyhow I just wish doctors in general in the way they practiced they didn’t just treat with meds or vaccinations and instead looked at us all as individuals.
We are all told a certain way is right from birth – so we are programmed. It is very hard to have an open mind that possibly the other side has valid points. I understand that! Anyhow my ramble for today.
Live and let live, or live and let die as it be, is a great philosophy in a world where each individual is completely isolated from the other members of the group. Such a world does not exist.
Victims of Belief
In response to this:
These people are not bad. Their beliefs are bad. They are victims of their bad beliefs. Talk with them like victims.
Cross-Tribal Intersectionality
Claiming special privilege or power for people due to any intersectionality scale, whether it comes from the left or right, is unethical. Individual ideas or arguments should gain influence on their own merit, and not because of their source.
Reversed Revelation
- In response to this: “As Boomers leave us, more and more churches will take the same stance. The simple demographics of the situation are that the younger the American, the more okay they are with LGBTQ people being treated like living, breathing human beings.”
Oh, there’s SO MUCH more to this story. I was a devout Mormon for 30+ years of my life and only in the past decade did a total 180, plus I live in Utah and most of my family/friends/neighbors are Mormon, so I can’t really escape this shit.
The short version of what you’re missing is this:
- The policy that was reversed was only implemented 3.5 years ago
- It was supposed to be implemented quietly, but it was leaked and shit hit the fan
- Thousands of people left the church as a result
- The church doggedly stood by the change, claiming it was revelation from God
- This new reversal is also now being boasted as revelation from God
Those of us who have family/friends/neighbors still in the nonsensical belief have been arguing with them over the hateful maneuvering for years, and now we non-Mormons are all laughing our asses off at them for putting themselves on the line to defend this hateful policy and their beloved church in so many ways–the church that totally threw them under the bus with this change.
Minimally Conditional Love
- In response to the following statement: “You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, with unconditional love and support.”
Unconditional love is a lie, and any time someone suggests we can expect it they lose credibility with me. It would be better if we could talk in terms of minimally conditional love, and when we own up to our minimal conditions for loving someone, we should also ensure that we’re living up to those minimal conditions ourselves. Otherwise we’re just living in a victim mentality.
It’s also a dangerous concept, because if we think others should love us unconditionally, we might in turn think we should love them unconditionally, and put up with any amount of bullshit.
But yes, hell yes, when we’re meeting our minimal conditions ourselves, we can also require them in a relationship. We deserve them. Everyone does.
I think kindness, respect, and compassion are a great set of minimal conditions.