Claiming special privilege or power for people due to any intersectionality scale, whether it comes from the left or right, is unethical. Individual ideas or arguments should gain influence on their own merit, and not because of their source.

https://mavenroundtable.io/theintellectualist/news/tucker-carlson-aoc-can-t-talk-about-morality-since-she-hasn-t-raised-children-jfrNlRlzKUK45ypnnB8Klw/?fbclid=IwAR3jWoyJvbyFN-dZMzD5jkLUAI7aQGbqnG1V9QVukkozIiN9uk2fDdKhtE4

• In response to this: “As Boomers leave us, more and more churches will take the same stance. The simple demographics of the situation are that the younger the American, the more okay they are with LGBTQ people being treated like living, breathing human beings.”

Oh, there’s SO MUCH more to this story. I was a devout Mormon for 30+ years of my life and only in the past decade did a total 180, plus I live in Utah and most of my family/friends/neighbors are Mormon, so I can’t really escape this shit.

The short version of what you’re missing is this:

• The policy that was reversed was only implemented 3.5 years ago
• It was supposed to be implemented quietly, but it was leaked and shit hit the fan
• Thousands of people left the church as a result
• The church doggedly stood by the change, claiming it was revelation from God
• This new reversal is also now being boasted as revelation from God

Those of us who have family/friends/neighbors still in the nonsensical belief have been arguing with them over the hateful maneuvering for years, and now we non-Mormons are all laughing our asses off at them for putting themselves on the line to defend this hateful policy and their beloved church in so many ways–the church that totally threw them under the bus with this change.

• In response to the following statement: “You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, with unconditional love and support.”

Unconditional love is a lie, and any time someone suggests we can expect it they lose credibility with me. It would be better if we could talk in terms of minimally conditional love, and when we own up to our minimal conditions for loving someone, we should also ensure that we’re living up to those minimal conditions ourselves. Otherwise we’re just living in a victim mentality.
It’s also a dangerous concept, because if we think others should love us unconditionally, we might in turn think we should love them unconditionally, and put up with any amount of bullshit.

But yes, hell yes, when we’re meeting our minimal conditions ourselves, we can also require them in a relationship. We deserve them. Everyone does.

I think kindness, respect, and compassion are a great set of minimal conditions.

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“People are afraid of being trapped inside a box, but they don’t realize that they are already trapped inside a box—their brain—which is locked within the bigger box of human society with its myriad fictions. When you escape the matrix the only thing you discover is a bigger matrix.” -Yuval Noah Harari in 21 Lessons for the 21st Century

The last time I read a book so tightly packed with insight and wisdom was the last time I read a book by this brilliant author.

You know that “the good old days” may have been good for you, but they weren’t so good for others, right?

Personal reminder to say this thought out loud the next time I hear a white, heterosexual male use that phrase. Also to think this to myself whenever I long for past relationships in which someone else broke up with me.

Person A: Regularly told they are beautiful.

Person B: Rarely or never told they are beautiful.

Person A to Person B: “You need to be more confident!”

Being afraid, doubtful, and insecure through bold moves isn’t a mark against your bravery, but the very weight of it.

Vulnerability is rarely a solicitation for advice, and mistaking it as such can damage relationships.

If you create an annoying character for your commercial/show/movie, you have created an annoying commercial/show/movie.

Love is a gamble.

You give a part of yourself to another person.

If it’s reciprocated, you win, and it feels like there is even more of you than before.

If not, it feels like you have lost a part of yourself.

Seeking love is an extravagance, and not for the poor in self.